HOW
TO HANDLE HATE?
This topic belongs to everyone and
relates to everyone,
if I am not wrong, everyone wants to overcome this
problem,
and some of them wouldn't know, how to solve this problem, so they
ignored it.
Some of them couldn’t understand,
why people hated them,
and why they are hating other people.
Most of us, even don’t know how to
proceed to overcome this problem.
Today,
I am so glad to share my opinion.
First
and foremost thing, How the hate generates?
I
believed everyone hates something in this world either, it could be any
characteristic of a personality,
a matter of choice, taste, color,
indiscipline, punctuality, late nights, traveling, some kind of food, etc.
But
then ultimately we hate with a reason or without a reason.
Whatever
makes you or brings you into an uncomfortable situation, you will hate that
thing.
So, fortunately,
or unfortunately, we all are hating something.
What
I’ve seen was there are three types of Hate---
1.
Something that produces an
uncomfortable situation in our minds also brings hate, that type of hate I
named ‘Organic Hate’.
2.
Another one I named ‘Compared
Hate. It’s produced by the person who himself compares with others.
This kind of Hate allows all other dust stale stink
ingredients[Envy, Jealousy, Anger] into their hearts,
making them feel more uncomfortable, notion frustrated, mood
swings, and ended up in a depressed state of mind.
Compared with others is far more dangerous than any other act.
3.
The last one was the ‘Reactional
Hate’ this kind of Hate is produced by our actions,
whatever your action maybe it hurts someone in any kind of matter
either their feelings or belief system and it deliberately generates a wave of
anger or hurts their ego,
but technically it slipped
down into hate and they project at you.
So, what do we do now?
Whatever hate was there in
our hearts, it should be avoided under any circumstances.
WHY?
Because the hate itself had darkness in it.
Now, you had an idea, of how hate generates and the types of it, so
you can sort it, now.
If you are hating anything and that was caused by
Organic Hate:
---remember also you do the same thing to someone, so adopt things as it is, so it can help you to not hate anything.
Compared Hate:
Or if you hate a person because of jealousy, remember, don’t be the
envy of anyone, because you have no idea about their journey. What you know is
their success, what you don’t know was their failures, struggles, losses, and
damages.
I know it's easy to say and cumbersome to overcome, but practice
makes perfect.
Reactional Hate:
Or if you hate a person because of their actions, of course, their
actions might be triggered off and provoke you,
and eventually ended up to generates anger or frustration and then
it transformed into hate and you showed up toward them.
So controlling this kind of hate is challenging, it needs practice.
Practice what?
Understanding everyone is a complication and it’s a demanding task.
Everyone was not ready for that, only those who overcome hate can
apply for this task.
Understanding a person means not standing in their shoes, but
knowing their intentions and thoughts.
What I’ve said was---How not to Hate others…..now I am going to say
how to handle Hate towards us.
How to control Organic Hate towards us?
Firstly, you have to know that everyone has a unique aura surrounding them,
so some of them can connect easily because the aura matches.
Some of them can’t connect.
So, it's not a problem for both of them, it's a personality
mismatching problem, it happens, but when we approach, communicate and share
our thoughts, we can detect the spot to connect with them, so eventually, we
can eliminate the organic hate.
It takes some time.
If someone is jealous of us means they carry the ‘Comparing
Hate’ in them. How to solve this?
We couldn’t do anything for that, the person has to understand --- ‘when
their turn comes they prevail and thrive out.’
And if possible convey to them---‘Their time has to come.’
And lastly, if someone is hating because of our actions----
There are two options to sway over this kind of hate.
1.
We have to change our actions or
embrace the hate.
2.
Pour out the love in our actions, so
it can surpass the hate.
Love
is the most powerful weapon and it can surpass all kinds of feelings.
Even
envy, hate, and anger couldn’t resist the walls of love.
Love
brings changes.
In a
spiritual aspect, it says like this----
God is love.
Even
the world believed –Love brings changes…
So,
what’s the conclusion?
Pour
out the love and sweeps off the hate.
Talking
about hate in one post is not enough, it demands another one. It will come
soon.